Our story

Dennis & I (Darlene) have created this blog to share with all of our friends and family our journey to adopt. The journey began when we met, fell in love and our desire to begin our family. We struggled for 6 years unsuccessfully to have children. Talk of adoption was something we had always considered and in April of 2007 we thought heaven had opened up when we were introduced to a birth mother who wanted to have us adopt her son. After several months of supporting her and her other child throughout the pregnancy our dreams fell apart when the birth mother scammed us not only out of our money but broke our hearts into a million pieces. Dennis was left to pick up the pieces and has reassured me every step of the way with his love and never ending devotion to our dreams of having a family.

Dennis and I started the long process of adopting from Kazakhstan and in 2008 we meet our son Nicholas.

We are now beginning the long process to adopt a sibling for Nicholas and it looks like Russia is where we will be heading next and hope in 2010 we meet our child!

We hope you will join us on our journey as we will do all our updating on this site. As always your love, prayers, good wishes & support mean the world to us. Thank you for being such an important part of our lives.







Friday, November 14, 2008

One month

Today is Sunday and it is one month Nicholas is home with us.

Time is flying by and here are some of the hi lights....

In the beginning it was a big adjustment for all of us but especially the little guy. The first few nights he woke up in the middle of the night crying and screaming and was just not happy which I’m certain was the combination jet lag and the time change. At times he would give Dennis & I this look – with those big blue eyes like what the hell are you people doing with me – it was scary yet funny as Dennis & I just couldn’t believe the looks he would throw us – especially when we wouldn’t let him do what he wanted to do! The tantrums were also very, very bad in the beginning – again when we wouldn’t let him get his way – the head slamming on the floor – wailing and kicking of the legs. Whew they were tough on a new mom but I would just bring him to his room and let him cry it out – he got wise to that and would crawl out to the kitchen with a whimper and just look for some hugs which were happily supplied. The tantrums are few and far apart and only last a minute at most – again this was good.

His doctor is terrific and he could not believe how well behaved Nicholas was and ordered lots of blood work and a few shots – all of which Nicholas handled like a typical 18 month old.

He has met lots of his extended family, first visit was with Grandma (Dennis mom) and she was so happy to meet her grandson and couldn’t believe how well he ate – she was impressed – yes you know those Italian mothers!!

Uncle Nick, Aunt Chris and Cousin Michelle, who played with Nicholas almost the whole evening and who has offered to baby sit the little man anytime Momma & Poppa need her – Thanks Michelle!

Aunt Grace & Uncle Joey loved meeting Nicholas and couldn’t believe how very smart the little guy is!

My niece Patricia and her daughter Noelle came out to meet Nicholas & Nicholas and Cousin Noelle had a great first visit!

Dave & Liana’s house was next and with 3 girls all under age five and newborn baby Andrew it was a great visit – Nicholas had a blast!

We went to visit Cousin Noelle and got to see Belle their dog - Nicholas was in his glory as woof woof is one of his favorite sounds to say doggie! He is not eager to get licked but loved petting Belle and watching her run around!

Another stop was to my office and my oh my Nicholas was a star! Everyone came around to find and meet the little man and he loved every minute of it!

So how is Nicholas doing?

He is simply a dream come true! Nicholas is a very sweet little boy who is loving and affectionate – he is the perfect child and Dennis & I couldn’t be happier!

Nicholas has had his Early Intervention Evaluation and the doctor said that he will be one of his memorable children as Nicholas is way ahead of his age – the doctor could not believe how advanced he is with everything – he was very impressed with him and feels the only thing we might have is a slight – very slight speech delay but even that is not likely considering he is only here a few short weeks and he has an advanced vocabulary already. We are waiting on the final evaluation to see what if anything is needed.

Nicholas pediatrician (who is the International doctor we used while in Kaz) was also very impressed with the prior care he received – he said it is very rare that all of the shots that are normally stated on the foreign medical records are accurate and in Nicholas’ case everything was up to date based on all the blood work results he received. Nicholas has a few to catch up with now but otherwise he is in great shape. He is gaining weight and everything looks great.

A few notables – Nicholas has not met a food or had a meal he hasn’t liked. The first few days he was eating like it was his last meal – fistfuls of food into his little mouth & as much as he could jam in and I couldn’t get the food to his mouth quick enough. Now he eats one teaspoonful at a time (yes I got him off the tablespoon!!) and eats at a normal pace. Nicholas loves vegetables and will gobble them up first from his plate – he also loves fruit – and although in Kaz he would eat a whole apple on his own his Momma started off with small cubes – I moved this up to slices- which to him still seems odd as he’d prefer the whole apple!

Nicholas loves, loves, loves books – he sits on the potty and will flip through a book countless times and is very happy just sitting doing this. His potty training has regressed a bit but only because we have him in pull ups and if he is preoccupied with playing he tends to not let us know, yet other times he will let us know and on some mornings he wakes with a dry pull up goes right to the potty and does his thing. I believe this will get better once he has a better grasp of the language – which by the way is remarkable. He has learned so many words just by looking at the pictures and hearing Momma say them over and over and over again. He understands and shakes his head for yes & no and we are almost completely to the point that when he wants or needs something he will say Momma instead of reaching out and just uttering sounds.

Nicholas now says “hello” and has even learned “school bus” and will point out one when he sees one. He is mastering the word circle and has just about mastered drawing one on his magna doodle. If we ask him to put something in the garbage he does it and if I ask him to get or put something in his room he will. The other day I simply asked him get me his magna doodle to draw a circle & he knew exactly what I meant (and I have never referred to his magna doodle as a magna doodle while we are playing with it) he just simply understood me when I asked him to get it.

Things that we are working on are his sleeping at night - he now sleeps through the night most nights but it is a battle getting him down but after a few differnt techniques I think we are on the right path.


Nicholas is a true gift and we love him so very much. Our life with him is everything we hoped and more and we thank god everyday for the gift and blessing of our wonderful little son!

Hi lights in pictures

Nicholas receives his U.S Citizenship certificate!!!






To celebrate we had some fun at the mall!



Checking out the cool tools with Poppa



Just wait till he figures out the whole "Christmas" thing!



Out to dinner to celebrate






Checking out his certificate again before nite nite!!



Some cute shots

Nicholas woke up from his nap and before he made a peep he decided to put his underwear on....notice they are over his pajamas!!!



Getting his hair dried by Poppa - which he loves!!



Hanging out in the office with Poppa.....



and having lots of fun!



but with plenty of kisses for Momma



Notice the crossed feet which he does almost all the time!!


Yeah life is good!




10 comments:

Susan said...

aww what a WONDERFUL GLOWING REPORT!!! Leeza will be home one month on Tuesday..and so amazing how smart and well adapted these kaz kids are.

I love how he has met so much of his family and hearing how well he is doing. I love the pictures too. He is obviously very very happy and very well loved.

Our lives have forever ever ever been changed. Not just because of our beautfiul Kazakh blessings, but that trip to Kaz changed me in so many ways that I continue to see.

So happy for your family and what a wonderful Holiday season it will be--to be TRULY and PROFOUNDLY thank you for our lil angels. :

God bless you and your family!!!

Chris and Heather said...

I am so glad everything is going so well. The pictures are great. He sounds so sweet and I can tell how much you all love him.

Patrick & Eileen said...

Great to see your update. Can't believe it's been one month at home already! Time has flown. It's been awhile since I checked in and boy does he look older!!

I of course love just looking at the photos and seeing his sweet face :)

Eileen

Anonymous said...

Awesome news. I am so glad you are happy and loving all of the experiences. The tantrums can be very difficult to handle...sounds like you guys made it work and are figuring things out.

Sounds like he is a very smart kid.

I am sure Christmas will be an amazing time.

We hope to be able to meet him the next time we head up to NY - probably not until Spring.

Thanks for the updates!
Moe

Tricia said...

I am SO happy for you all. He sure has changed your life for the better in many ways I am sure. I count my blessings evert day and am in awe with how much joy Rustam has brought to our lives, too. I loved the update. The photo of you two kissing is just adorable! Isn't having that citizenship document a great feeling? Although the had the wrong date on Rustam's and we have to send it back.

Regina said...

I enjoyed your update! Nicholas is gorgous and obviously enjoying his new life with you guys.

One month home already? Life is so different, but so full isn't it?!?

Sandi said...

I love the update. I am so happy that everything is going so well for the three of you. Nicholas seems like such a dream child. He is absolutely adorable.

Its wonderful that he has been able to meet so much family.

Happy Holidays, I know this one is especially special for you guys.

Sandi

Anonymous said...

It is so great to see an update! Glad to see you are all doing so well; what a great family!

Have a wonderful thanksgiving; so much to be thankful for!

Heidi

McMary said...

He is so cute and I am glad to hear that he is doing so well. What a great family you make--Happy Thanksgiving.

Karen said...

Very fun update. Cute, cute little boy and what a smartie he is. You guys are so blessed. Enjoy the holidays.